Tips and Tricks on How to Stay Safe on the Internet

When a person is asked about what it means to stay safe on the internet, some of the things that come to mind include not getting acquainted with strangers unless there are mutual acquaintances nearby so you could get references about the person you are talking to. Some say be careful about what you share, and some say do not use the internet at all. I am sure you can think of many more examples. In this post I will talk about some of the things that might help you be prepared in any situation such as knowing the worldview of a person, knowing when to part with someone, what to do when you are parted, when to leave the internet, and more.
How to know a person’s worldview: First of all, what is a worldview? A worldview is how a person looks at life, at you, ad everything in general. In this example we will use this question, if you drink a full glass of water to half its capacity, would you say the glass was half-empty or half-full? Why or why not? To begin with, a person can say the words that they are there for you, that they are open-minded and willing to listen, even though they may not have your perception. In my experience, I tend to socialise with those who I think have the same interests as me, until i start talking about how I can use transhuman efforts to change reality. They argue that people like us live in a fantasy world because they perceive reality, which is what life is. These people are known as realist to pesimist. If I have to choose, realism leans in neither direction between optimism and pesimism. I tend to stand to the left of realism and lean closer to optimism which is why I would neither say the glass was half-full or half-empty, but if I had to choose one it would be half-full. Usually you don’t realise the truth of this person until you get their side in an argument of any sort. What that argument is doesn’t matter. It could be mind over heart, good versus evil, hard versus soft science, etc. Sometimes, you can get used to talking to the person until you learn the truth about them, and then you are faced with a decision. Should I part with them or not? What good will come out of doing one of each?
The first thing to keep in mind is, how and why was this person made to view the world this way? I believe we can change a person’s perception if we are willing to keep a positive outlook. I am not social, but I am not antisocial. I am simply asocial for many of these reasons, and in my experience, both socialists and antisocialists are not as smart as asocialists because they act more than they perceive. If a person with a pesimistic perception said they would like to work with others, that might be hard to imagine. I have met professional counsellors, doctors and nurses who had pesimistic attitudes, and right away you can tell that they sound and act authoritative, blunt, and impatient,and not at all caring and sympathetic. These are just some of many traits that I have noticed, though I am sure you can think of more. A lot of people get the words bragging and showing off mixed up. Bragging means you are proud of your accomplishments, which you have every right to be, and showing off means you either consciously or subconsciously behave in a manner that is supposed to represent that you are better than everybody else.
So, how should you deal with these chaps? To be honest, that would be up to you to decide, but knowing whether or not you are a conformist or nonconformist will ensure that you know what to look for and how to respond. Some people start out being open-minded, but as they build a crowd of four or more people, their attitudes are changed, either to maintain their status or just because they were brainwashed by their peers. When I discover that such an individual is pesimistic and if they start getting heated with my opinions and don’t agree with me in a respectful manner, I do not yel or bash at them using harsh words, but I do part with them with words of advice, and if they need another reminder, I tell them the truth about me, saying that I am not cisgender, and they should get off their computer and do something that involves serotonin production and making sure this person is more right-brained instead of left-brained. I heard that some people are proud to be complete left-brainers, though. One more piece of advice: If the person you talk to thinks correcting other’s spelling is rude, you should probably end your relationship there. I encourage that you correct other’s spelling and grammar on the internet as long as you are doing it in a noble manner.
When should you part with someone: Usually, you feel the need to part with someone because you do not agree on something, or several things and you have an argument over problems that both of you would like to solve, but you have your own way of solving it and they have their own way of doing theirs. Sometimes you have to part with someone because they are annoying you and making you feel uncomfortable. Sometimes you want to part with them so they will not be able to tell you anything more hurtful. Whatever the reason, there are ways of knowing when you should do it, and how you will feel about it afterword. Remember, never be hard on yourself in thinking you are weak just because someone bashed your dreams. It is always true that when you are in control of parting, you feel triumphant and glad to be rid of that person. Sometimes, however, that is not always the case. If you get used to knowing the person and the two of you were very close and you talked about things you were interested in until you discovered that this person betrayed you and you are forced to part with them, you would feel like they were the ones who parted with you even though that’s not the case. Some people are out for revenge, others just hurt inside. Whatever it is, there is comfort in knowing that you are not alone and that there are safe havens where you can go to talk about it and to know that there are biological ways of easing off the pain, such as neurofeedback, brain wave entrainments, etc.
What you should do when you are parted by someone: If you were parted by someone, you usually feel ashamed and guilty because you tried to press your point and the person didn’t listen to reason, and why that is is still something we yet do not know. This section is not going to focus on what you should do if you were parted because you kept on pressing your point in a foolish manner even though the person disagreed with you. This is nearly focusing on the wise aspects of knowing that you didn’t do any form of wrongdoing. Let me give you an example. If you ask your partner if they are doing all right and they don’t reply and you keep on asking them, you obviously get worried and concerned. If your partner, however, decided to part with you in a surly manner because they felt like you were asking them too much, then it shows that they were the ones who did the wrongdoing, not you. You were simply wanting to know if they were all right and they got rid of you because they had too much to deal with. If something like that happens, you will undergo several stages of emotions. Again, there are safe havens that you can go to, and meet other people who have gone through what you went through. It’s hard to talk to someone who hasn’t undergone the experience whether it is relevant to yours than it is for someone who has been through what you went. They will usually get annoyed and push you away because they also have frustrations of their own. Some people say harsh things to you, others change the subject. This is because they don’t have the ability to perceive others, another point I should remind all of you. You also don’t know what words to use to sum up the way you feel inside in a way that you can transmit the sensations across the internet, and again you are worried about being humiliated. If we could veer into that person’s mind, we could feel what they are feeling and it would help us understand so we can better sympathise with them.
Opinions: If for some reason you and your friend can’t get along because you get on each other’s nerves about your opinions and theirs, then you should ask yourself, am I ready for their opinion? Can I know for sure it is what I want to hear because they think they know the answer when they could be wrong? They could ask you if you would like to get their opinion. If they just tell you their belief, it could be as bad as if they were constantly forcing their opinions on you. There are several ways to skin a cat. This is why we ask that you back up your opinion with other sources, references, etc, to show them why it is you say so, but this is no excuse to get heated over something and have them bashing someone else. Remember, we can learn from each other if we are willing to work together. If you were speaking at a lecture and you told the audience there was only one way of doing something, few people would understand you, but if you said there was more than one way, the more ways of doing something, the more people would understand.
When you should leave the internet: Whether you are leaving temporarily or altogether depends on your circumstances, but you should know that retreating from the problem might show others that you are cowardly and not willing to fight back. Sometimes you have to lie to others about why you want to get away from the internet just so they don’t pester you. There are ways of remaining invisible and still talk to those whom you really trust and avoid those whom you hold at arms length. This is a moral and ethical decision you will have to make on your own. Should I lie or be honest about why I am leaving the internet? Think about why you are doing this as well. The words may not come to you immediately, and it might take you some time to come up with just the right way of putting it. If you are afraid to face the problem from which you ran away, get allies who care for you and ask them to help you face it and fight for you.
Here’s another piece of advice. Never blackmail someone just because you don’t want others to know about your experiences with the drama you were in. If you don’t want your acquaintances to tell others about what you went through, you have to agree on it together. You simply just cannot make someone do what you want them to do. We just feel like we need to talk about it because it is a way of letting it out rather than keeping it all inside. There are safe ways to doing this though. Some choose to play a game on their computer or console, especially games that involve violence just so that they can get out their frustration and anger in a safe manner while others do the exact opposite. The important thing is to separate games from real life. Your decisions you make in a game shouldn’t reflect those in reality, for they will have consequences. If you can’t do this then you have self-control issues, and I am sure that transhumans can fix that. Whatever the way you deal with the situation, be strong.
This next part deals more with survival and regrouping on the internet. It is true that social networks allow you to establish virtual support groups and mailing lists where people can go to and talk about issues in any minority group. Like all other places, however, there has to be an administrator and or moderator to make sure bad guys don’t come sneaking in and to keep arguments down. However, some group leaders get carried away and start doing what they want and they think only about themselves, and not the people in the group and how each person is different in their own special way, even if they say the words that they are there. Sometimes, after a traumatic event occurs, people start blaming the administrator because they didn’t sympathise with them, saying they didn’t have responsibilities over what went on in their personal lives, and even group administrators don’t have control over who comes in because we can lie about our identity on the internet. If I were to administrate a group, I would let the people make the norms and roles and who should do what and when, rather than having me decide. I would reach out to newcomers by making the opportunity and invite them to the group if I feel they understand the way I drive the group. Should humanity be more important than having a monarchy? What would happen if we had groups based on anarchy, without a leader, meaning everyone is their own leader? This might be hard for people from other countries who may have other beliefs than we do. Remember, if you are the victim of this trauma, it’s going to be a lot more harder for you than it is on the other people in the group. They can do whatever they want; they weren’t targeted, but they should be able to synpathise with you nonetheless.
How do we deal with predators: Everyone agrees that you should never meet anyone from the internet unless you have met the following: You have known this person and their family for more than a certain amount of time, like six months or a year. You should talk to the person via telephone and meet their family. Always meet at a public place like the airport, the train station, bus station, etc. I am sure you can think of many more things to keep you safe, but let me add some of my own tips and tricks, which include how to fight back in self-defense when blind, how to use tactics to deal with molesters, and looking out into the future at how we can use transhuman technology to make sure this doesn’t happen again.
For blind people, we can defend ourselves totally based on how things feel and we don’t refer to our vision to aim and strike. Many martial arts instructors do train people blindfolded though, but your average probably wouldn’t be able to. If you find yourself in a physical fight, try to think about how to darken the environment, or how to disable their eyes so they wouldn’t be able to see. Once they can’t see they will be helpless unless they were trained to fight blindfolded. Consult your self-defense centre for further information.
There are always predators out there who would have nothing but to take their pleasure out on you, whether the person is a male wishing to prey on females, or prostitutes wishing to enhance male arousal. First of all, the best way to get rid of a male predator is to use clever tactis, act dumb, stupid and not at all interested, or pretend you have a disability. If you are transgendered, you might have different feelings about this than cisgender females because you know how to warp their minds. It all depends on how knowledgeable you are about the subject and you know that you have the self-confidence to do it.
How you deal with prostitutes can be quite tempting if you are male, but one thing I learned to do was use my status to disappoint them and show them a lesson that will teach them not to mess with me. The problem with this is that many males who act as the female find themselves attracted to the role than to take it seriously. Many of such individuals put their characters in perverted situations and this will definitely not be of help in the long run.
Ever since the history of advertising emerged into a new era of commercials, we have had people sexualising others in newspapers, magazines, on the radio, on TV, and all the Americans are doing is eating it up. This is why it is very hard for people who appreciate the older generation to break into such industries, because all they want is your body. The question is, why? What started it? It’s true that sex has become very open even though in the past we had monogamists and which we still should, but we are also discovering that we need to make others aware about how to have safer sex. If we don’t put an end to hollywood and their selfish attitudes to being the number one, it will eventually get wired into our evolutionary history for future generations to come.
Having said all of this, these are just many more examples to be yourself, act the way you feel is best, but don’t go off and rub it on someone who act differently than you do because that will make them more miserable. Remember that our environment also affects how we behave, not just the culture. And remember, just because it is the holidays, not everyone can be happy because they can’t afford to have a feast and buy gifts, they have lost someone special, etc. We must reach out to them and let them know we are here for them. Remember, the key word is balance in this life. Never take anything to the extreme and always live in moderation. Don’t be too careful, for you will always have your guard up and this could lead to trouble, but at the same time, if you are not careful enough, you could wind up going backwards. Some people just take in situations way more than they are supposed to be. When a change occurs, most likely you will see people are quite ignorant about the changes because the person has no interest in the scientific community. They wonder how the changes come, and when they do, they accept this or deny it, and only then when in denial, they want change. Everything is just so “backwards” after that. We can only change if we have a positive attitude, a truly open mind and if we unite.

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